With so much focus on children's use of screens, it's easy for parents to forget about their own screen use.
瀵瑰瀛愪娇鐢ㄧ數瀛愯澶囩粰浜堝お澶氱殑鍏虫敞锛屽緢瀹规槗璁╃埗姣嶅繕璁拌嚜宸变娇鐢ㄧ數瀛愯澶囥€?br />"Tech is designed to really suck on you in," says Jenny Radesky in her study of digital play,
鈥滃彂灞曠鎶€鐨勭洰鐨勫氨鏄负浜嗚浣犳矇娴稿叾涓€濓紝瑭瑰Ξ路鎷夊痉鏂熀鍦ㄥス鐨勬暟瀛椾骇鍝佺爺绌朵腑瀹ｇО锛?br />"and digital products are there to promote maximal engagement.
鈥滅敓浜ф暟瀛椾骇鍝佹槸涓轰簡璁╀綘瀵瑰叾鏇寸棿杩枫€?br />It makes it hard to disengage, and leads to a lot of bleed-over into the family routine."
杩欏緢闅捐浜轰笉娌夋蹈鍏朵腑锛屼篃浼氬鑷村搴棩甯稿彈鍒伴噸澶у奖鍝嶃€傗€?br />Radesky has studied the use of mobile phones and tablets at mealtimes by giving mother-child pairs a food-testing exercise.
鎷夊痉鏂熀閫氳繃濡堝鈥斿瀛愰鐗╂祴璇曞疄楠岋紝鐮旂┒浜嗘墜鏈哄拰骞虫澘鐢佃剳鐨勪娇鐢ㄣ€?br />She found that mothers who sued devices during the exercise
濂瑰彂鐜帮紝鍦ㄥ疄楠屾湡闂翠娇鐢ㄧ數瀛愯澶囩殑姣嶄翰涓庡瀛?br />started 20 percent fewer verbal and 39 percent fewer nonverbal interactions with their children.
杩涜鐨勮瑷€浜ゆ祦鍑忓皯浜?0%锛岃繘琛岀殑闈炶瑷€浜ゆ祦鍑忓皯浜?9%銆?br />During a separate observation, she saw that phones became a source of tension in the family.
鍦ㄤ竴娆＄嫭绔嬬殑瑙傚療涓紝濂瑰彂鐜版墜鏈烘垚浜嗗搴揣寮犳皼鍥寸殑鏍规簮銆?br />Parents would be looking at their emails while the children would be making excited bids for their attention.
鐖舵瘝褰撴椂鍙兘姝ｅ湪鏌ョ湅浠栦滑鐨勭數瀛愰偖浠讹紝鑰屽瀛愪滑鍙兘姝ｅ湪鍔姏鍦版兂瑕佽幏寰椾粬浠殑娉ㄦ剰銆?br />Infants are wired to look at parents' faces to try to understand their world,
濠村辜鍎夸細鑷劧鐨勮瀵熺埗姣嶇殑琛ㄦ儏浠ヨ瘯鍥剧悊瑙ｄ粬浠殑涓栫晫锛?br />and if those faces are blank and unresponsive鈥攁s they often are when absorbed in a device鈥攊t can be extremely disconcerting foe the children.
濡傛灉浠栦滑闈㈡棤琛ㄦ儏銆佹鏃犲洖搴斺€斺€斾粬浠矇娴镐簬鐢靛瓙璁惧鏃剁粡甯稿姝も€斺€旇繖浼氳瀛╁瓙浠瀬鍏朵笉瀹夈€?br />Radesky cites the "still face experiment" devised by developmental psychologist Ed Tronick in the 1970s.
鎷夊痉鏂熀寮曠敤浜嗗彂灞曞績鐞嗗瀹跺焹寰仿风壒娲涘凹鍏?0涓栫邯70骞翠唬鍋氱殑鈥滈潤姝㈣劯瀹為獙鈥濄€?br />In it, a mother is asked to interact with her child in a normal way
before putting on a blank expression and not giving them any visual social feedback;
涔嬪悗锛岃姹傚ス闈㈡棤琛ㄦ儏骞朵笖涓嶈兘鍋氬嚭瑙嗚涓婄殑銆佺ぞ浜ゆ€х殑鍥炲簲銆?br />The child becomes increasingly distressed as she tries to capture her mother's attention.
缁撴灉锛岃繖涓瀛愯瘯鍥惧惛寮曞濡堢殑娉ㄦ剰鍔涳紝鍚屾椂鍙樺緱瓒婃潵瓒婄棝鑻︺€?br />"Parents don't have to be exquisitely parents at all times, but there needs to be a balance
and parents need to be responsive and sensitive to a child's verbal or nonverbal expressions of an emotional need," says Radesky.
鐖舵瘝闇€瑕佸瀛╁瓙鎯呮劅闇€姹傜殑璇█鎴栭潪璇█鐨勮〃杈捐鏁忔劅锛屼笖瀵规鍋氬嚭鍥炲簲鈥濄€?br />On the other hand, Tronick himself is concerned that the worries about kids' use of screens
鍙︿竴鏂归潰锛岀壒缃楀凹鍏嬫湰韬篃鎷呭咖锛屽浜庡瀛愪娇鐢ㄧ數瀛愯澶?br />are born out of an "oppressive ideology that demands that parents should always be interacting" with their children:
"It's based on a somewhat fantasized, very white, very upper-middle-class ideology
that says if you're failing to expose your child to 30,000 words you are neglecting them."
杩欎竴鎰忚瘑褰㈡€佽涓哄鏋滀綘鏈兘璁╁瀛愭帴瑙﹀埌3涓囦釜璇嶆眹锛屼綘灏辨槸蹇界暐浜嗕粬浠€?br />Tronick believes that just because a child isn't learning from the screen doesn't mean there's no value to it,
particularly if it gives parents time to have a shower, do housework or simply have a break from their child.
灏ゅ叾鏄綋瀹冭兘璁╃埗姣嶆湁鏃堕棿鍐蹭釜娣嬫荡銆佸仛浜涘鍔℃垨鍙槸鏆傛椂绂诲紑瀛╁瓙浼戞伅涓€涓嬬殑鏃跺€欍€?br />Parents, he says, can get a lot out of using their devices to speak to a friend or get some work out of the way.
浠栬锛岀埗姣嶄娇鐢ㄨ嚜宸辩殑鐢靛瓙璁惧鍙互寰楀埌寰堝涓滆タ锛岃繖鏍疯窡鏈嬪弸鑱婂ぉ灏辨湁璇濆彲鑱婃垨鑰呭畬鎴愪竴浜涘伐浣溿€?br />This can make them feel happier, which lets then be more available to their child the rest of the time.